Since July 17th, 2021 I am in a long-distance relationship with my American boyfriend. I am surviving it, but it hasn’t been easy. The relationship itself stands on its own and the only work we needed to do is communicating with each other. Constant and every day conversations. What t.f. would we communicate about every single day, you might ask? Well, for starters about his day, or mine. Me wanting to just have someone to listen to me, while he still sleeps. Keep in mind that our time difference is -4 hours on his side. When he still sleeps, my day already is bright and sunny or rainy, depends on the season. And the best part most of the times is his handsome face I just want to see or be annoyed by.
I say that being in a long-distance relationship is easy for people that know themselves. Let me explain; my Babayy and I did an online love language test. Maybe, I might have talked about it in a blog. Ah, yes! This blog. The exact quote was: ‘What’s important to us is communication. Being as open and honest as possible about our feelings and our thoughts. We need to listen and work on the things bothering us.’ So far, it has worked, not with any challenges or frustration. Why? We have a language and cultural barrier. Even though English is the second language learned in school. I am not a native speaker and my words as you read is very simple grammer and vocabulary. There were a few moments where I said a breakup is maybe the best for us. But it is not! I am selfish and he supports it.
Another uneasy part in a long-distance relationship is my number 3 and his number 4; Physical Touch. As I have shared my love/intimate relationships- physical is very important for me. It only differs by 4 points with Quality Time which is his number 1 and my number 2. Our number 1 and number 2 is opposite – thus we enjoy it. We also enjoy our Words of Affirmation that is why we can communicate every day!
To state this long-distance relationship is harder for him than for me. His QT is 13% higher than mine which says that he needs me more than I need him. Despite his lack of PT that is also 13% less than mine. It is obvious that his QT spending time together and my PT balance each other out. It is just that I can be very good alone in a distance knowing I have a boo to be committed to. I always wanted that. The weird part is- the longer I am physically distant from him- I get emotionally distant too- because I not only connect through physically I also connect through words being close to him. I get distracted by nice words. I am a romantic person; reading and now watching tons of romcoms.
We are doing great, despite the fact we do miss each other and it has been almost 5 months after the last time I saw him.
We are doing great, despite the fact I seek stuff to argue about that at the end I make a comment to break up.
We are doing great, despite the fact that he keeps complaining of things realistically is not possible right now, for both of us.
We are doing great, because we still like and love each other, despite our arguments.
We are doing great, because we communicate, are committed and he compromises. 🙂
AND C 1 too many. 😉 and will C him soon …
For tomorrow; Happy Birthday – Next Birthdays we spend together
