What are my Thoughts?

January 16, 2023July 26, 2024

Dutch Article: ‘Als jij mij niet contact dan doe ik het ook niet’

Het contact binnen vriendschap is net een trap

Wie contact wie als eerst? Een punt van discussie.

‘We hebben lang niet gesproken, dus zag het als een goed moment om een vriendin na lange tijd weer te spreken.’

‘Klopt, om eerlijk te zijn keek ik al een tijdje naar jou bericht of telefoontje. Elke keer dat we contact hadden kwam het van mij. Op den duur vond ik dat niet meer leuk, dat ik steeds contact opzoek. Ik heb dit niet alleen bij jou ervaren, maar bij meerdere mensen.’

‘Ik begrijp dat. Ik maak eerlijk gezegd niet als eerste contact, omdat ik ook ervaren heb, dat je niet gelijk reageer en of nauwelijks kan beantwoorden. Vaak legde je me ook uit dat je in een stress zit.’

‘Tijdens onze laatste gesprek heb ik ook aangegeven dat je mij mag en kan contacten. Daar zag ik niets van terug. Ik ben er al klaar mee. Wie mij contact, contact ik terug.’

January 10, 2023January 29, 2023

Retire at age 30. Especially when it’s not stressful. Life is good!

‘I want to retire at the age of 30, but I am not living that life and I am already 30’

Why can’t you retire at the age of 30?

She says she has the stress to make money.

For a person gets retired money and live a life stress fee.

That person doesn’t think of earning or making money. He/She makes the passive income.

This comment of a friends friend made me think.

How do I live my life?

But how does a retired life look like?

Most of our grandparents are retired.

Most people that works , retire at the age of 60.

June 20, 2022January 29, 2023

A misconception I can’t stand by

There is this misconception in the world that people without a certain degree, knowledge (studied it), experiences (children) and everything you can think of, doesn’t have the right to say, give advice or their opinion on the matter.

It triggers me, because the lack of that type of understanding is mind-blowing for me.

June 12, 2022January 29, 2023

My number 1 trigger, which is a work in progress

After 7,5 months staying and living in the United States of America (USA) I was excited to go back to my home country, Suriname. I was excited, because of how I would be perceived. But I was easily triggered.

There is a lot of cultural, emotional and physical baggage where I grew up my entire life.

You are raise with a set of values, morals, habits and so on.

You want to find on top of that your own identity.

Which for some is such a long process and journey.

Some never find out who they truly are.

For what I know; people have so much to say, there is always something to say and not in a positive way- more in a reproachfully manner.

March 13, 2022January 29, 2023

How I deal with a long-distance relationship- not easy. 1 thing we keep having starts with a C; life-changing

Love Language to work a Long-Distance Relationship

Since July 17th, 2021 I am in a long-distance relationship with my American boyfriend. I am surviving it, but it hasn’t been easy. The relationship itself stands on its own and the only work we needed to do is communicating with each other. Constant and every day conversations. What t.f. would we communicate about every single day, you might ask? Well, for starters about his day, or mine. Me wanting to just have someone to listen to me, while he still sleeps. Keep in mind that our time difference is -4 hours on his side. When he still sleeps, my day already is bright and sunny or rainy, depends on the season. And the best part most of the times is his handsome face I just want to see or be annoyed by.

January 2, 2022March 11, 2022

2nd Day of a Happy Healthy New Year

New Years resolutions are overrated.

Every year when the clock strikes 12, and even before, we set New Years resolutions. My question is; why do we even set some new years resolutions? What is the purpose for having new years resolutions?

November 11, 2020November 11, 2020

I shall burn my 1 diary for self-development and growth

What should I do with my diary, scribbles and notes? Hold on to it is the first reaction you can think of. It is part of your ‘healing’ process, some say. My diary has been my process of evaluation, without it I would have felt lost, or unaccomplished. I needed to write and scribble a lot to get my thoughts organized. I needed to read it occasionally so, I would acknowledge my growth and my process. I felt unachieved, and with the diary I knew- I was on the right path, somehow. But the diaries, notes and scribbles I have, I feel that they have fulfilled there purpose and I should move on.

October 24, 2020July 26, 2024

Personal Branding vs Overexposure

What is personal branding? For me it is to consistently promote yourself with a message you stand behind with your life. It sounds pretty intense. Who would die for their brand, right?

Multi Purposed Logo

What is overexposure? For me it feels like consistently with a certain message to promote yourself where it irritates. Does the irritation happens to everyone or just to me and maybe a certain group of people.

September 20, 2020

UnHappy

For awhile now, I have been unhappy with my life. I was still trying to combinate two things in life. 1. Being Myself and going for the things that really make me happy and 2. trying to fit in my mothers view of what society wants.

August 10, 2020

Choose your battle

I started thinking of all the things I did achieve in a few years. Some of these goals had an age attached to it. And most of those dreams I never achieved on that age. But there are challenges in life connected to the things. Life gives you challenges in the good and the bad. So what battle should I choose to fight?